We all know this unpleasant and uncomfortable feeling of danger, loss, hurt, anxiety, numbness, convulsion and quiver – it is fear. Our perception gets distorted and we happen to forget everything and anything we are capable of doing in the face of fear. Mostly, we all end up in tears and pray for miracles.
Fears are not trivial things to discard, in fact, they are important. Fear helps us to think of possible outcomes of a present situation, though the bad ones. Fear makes us extra-conscious and nudges us to draft a plan ‘B’. Fear is a proof that each one of us has imaginative and cognitive capability. How one deals with fear depends on one’s attitude.
A positive person listens fear carefully and makes a plan to deal with the situation. The capability to: differentiate between actual and perceived fear, calculate and mitigate risk saves a positive person from a grip of generic fear of bad things happening for no good reasons. Such a person despite of all odds has faith that world is still a beautiful place to live in. These people have decoded fear as face everything and rise.
When people stuck with generic fears, they generally go irrational, insane and seek for miracles. They are the people who find world not a safe place to be. They believe they are destined to be in bad situation and there is nothing they can do to improve the situation but pray. They have all kinds of horror and defeated hero’s stories to tell others. These are the people who spread hopelessness, helplessness and fear everywhere they go. They are influential rather contagious. They have defined fear as forget everything and run.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” ~ Dale Carnegie
I acknowledge that sometimes our worst fear do come true despite denial and all our efforts to avoid it. Fear, as I said, lists all the possible and impossible bad outcomes of a situation. So, one must be open to face the worst outcome once in a while and such encounter must a learning and strengthening incident of one’s life. Because problems are not to break you, but to make you stronger if nothing else. When will be the right moment to face such an event is not determined by us. It may be in childhood ,or in teenage, or in early adult life, or in late adulthood. A child and a teenager needs a positive adult’s guidance to overcome such bad event. It is our responsibility as a parent and as teachers to help a child and teenager to not opt out positive attitude. When we fail to cater this responsibility, negativity gets ingrained in a kid or a teenager and he/she turns out to be horrible adult. I call this ‘making of scared pessimist’.
Fear, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as one forms a clear and precise picture of it. So, don’t be afraid and imagine all your fears in full depth. This will help you to evaluate your fears and act accordingly. Once you have evaluated all the fears, act as if there is no fear. Be courageous and be open to any type of outcome. I believe that everything happens for a reason and something positive will come out of every situation.
See you again. 🙂